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The first half of my life I struggled with my emotions. The second half of my life, I have conquered them.
I understand it’s not easy. If it were simple, no one would become depressed, overwhelmed, or fearful. And if it were easy, I wouldn’t have been a poor sport when I lost a game of anything the first half of my life. I wouldn’t have thrown golf clubs when I hit bad shots or thrown childish temper tantrums when things didn’t go my way. If it were easy, I would have managed my disappointments to achieve greater results. It’s not so simple, even in the best of times.
The truth is, I was very much aware of my emotional imbalance, and never liked that part of me. I always wanted to become a better person, but I never knew how. I did not need to be punished more. I needed to be taught how to avoid punishment in the first place. All my athletic coaches taught me how to utilize my skills to become a formidable athlete. But they did not teach me how to utilize my mindset to optimize my skill sets and, thus, I consistently underachieved. Until the age of 40. Then it all changed when I met people who taught me how to change me.
So yes, the evolution of CEMP began as a process to fix me. And once I learned and mastered the concepts and strategies, my life has never been the same. My emotions now empower me and no longer embarrass me. Now, almost 30 years later, I have taught these powerful and effective techniques to thousands of job seekers; and to hundreds of résumé writers and career coaches who now incorporate empowerment coaching into their repertoire. Emotional integrity optimizes skill set that result in desired outcomes. Always.
It wasn’t the résumés
When I began writing résumés in 1989, breaking all the so-called rules at the time, I quickly realized it wasn’t the
résumés I wrote that resulted in my clients’ success. It was how they felt about themselves once we had worked together – and once they had résumés they were proud of and confident in. This is what made all the difference.
It didn’t take long for me to realize that the fundamental problem with the entire job search process was that job seekers were not excited, engaged, or confident in the activity. Again I ask the question: how many job seekers have you run across who have told you that they have trouble falling asleep at night because they are so darn excited about waking in the morning to conduct thei
In the past few years, with a red hot economy and historically low unemployment, job seekers could not get excited about conducting a proactive and inspiring job search for their better futures. And now, with soaring unemployment, business closings, and death all around us, job seekers are even more unglued than ever. Mindset will surely determine skillset – and our destiny.
At this time, please allow me to introduce to you a fellow PARW/CC member. After successfully completing the CEMP program, Cathy Lanzalaco sent me the following – to share with you. At a time of unprecedented anxiety throughout the world... how well we manage our mindset – our thinking – individually and collectively, will surely determine our destiny. And this is no exaggeration.
Empowering our clients to build the lives and the careers of their dreams
by Cathy Lanzalaco
Inspire Careers, Cheektowaga, NY https://www.inspirecareers.com
As a career coach, I have always believed that success starts in the head. Yes, our clients need dynamic and accomplishment-driven résumés, cover letters that garner immediate attention, and LinkedIn profiles that help present their employment and “value” story. But we have all seen job seekers armed with the best tools and strategies struggle and fall short of their aspirations, while others, with average resources, triumphed. Some against all odds, right? So what is the root cause behind both triumph and coming up short? It’s mindset. A positive and empowering mindset, self-talk, and approach with others lead to success. A negative and inhibiting attitude create the opposite.
Coaches by definition are positive, affirming, supportive, and creative. We are forces of nature to be reckoned with as we shepherd our clients on the journey of career exploration and transition. Show me a despondent client recently fired from a job and I will have a list of their shining professional qualifications and top 5 career highlights within 30 minutes. But haven’t you noticed that we, more times than we’d like to admit, believe more in our clients than they do in themselves? As industry professionals, we help them articulate their value to employers and hiring professionals, despite not feeling comfortable or confident talking about themselves or their achievements. Isn’t it true that we are the ones to help celebrate their successes despite their conditioned, hard-wired need to downplay them?
I have always coached my clients from a position of mental strengthening and self-empowerment. And though I knew there was a great, almost universal need for combining job transition skills with a peak performing mindset, I was seeking a program or resource that would help me serve all my clients more fully.
Why I became a CEMP
When I heard Jay Block speak about PARW/CC’s latest certification program - CEMP (Certified Empowerment & Motivational Professional) at last year’s 2019 Conference
in Clearwater Beach, Florida, I was thrilled! This was exactly what I had been wanting to incorporate into my coaching model, to help my clients develop a stronger mindset. This was what our industry needs, specific techniques to help clients conquer the toughest part of job search... their emotional response to fear, rejection, and adversity.
COVID-19: Fear, uncertainty, stress... unemployment
If timing is everything, CEMP couldn’t have come at a better time. The COVID-19 global health pandemic has changed daily life for all of us. While we need to be aware of what is happening around us, to better prepare for what lies ahead and ensure our family’s welfare, it is alarming to me how the media feeds on our fears. We have all seen the numbers: Over 22 million people filed for unemployment last month, and the numbers continue to rise across the nation. Maybe even Depression levels – 25 percent. So many people, including those displaced by the pandemic, are active on social media or glued to their television sets or devices. Consequently, most of us, whether we like it or not, are constantly ingesting negativity regarding the country’s economic downturn and the terrifying forecasts. Yes, we see tons and tons of good will, heart-warming acts of kindness, and feel-good stories. But most people live and breathe economics – personal finances. Our inability to leave our homes is one thing. But our inability to pay the mortgage/rent and monthly bills is quite another thing, entirely. And thus, fear, stress, and a million other negative emotions will sabotage the job search process. As Jay says, everything affects everything else.
When we help equip clients with résumés and job transition tools – along with integrating teachable strategies to successfully manage rejection, setbacks, and other adversities, wow... success is virtually assured! In the pursuit of a new job or workplace opportunity, I believe it is important that we teach clients HOW to see the silver lining - and HOW to turn lemons into lemonade.
Fifteen years in HR
Having worked in human resources for over 15 years, it is been my experience that mentally strong and positive employees are valuable assets to any company. Highly engaged employees are more resilient and resourceful
in times of challenge, change, and crisis. They are more likely to serve as role models and leaders among their peers. Behavioral questions posed during a job interview are meant to draw out how an individual thinks, reacts, and behaves in a given circumstance or event. A coach armed with the resources and actionable insights designed to improve a client’s mental and emotional well-being during an interview (or in any stressful or uncomfortable situation), provides them with a clear and undeniable advantage. To influence a positive decision in their favor.
Why do résumé writers and career coaches need CEMP certification?
In 2018, I became a CPCC which really helped define my value offering to my clients. CEMP builds on the coaching foundation of CPCC which is based on a “whole person theory,” that emphasizes that people are more than their
careers; that we work to love enriched lives. But often times, feelings and conflicting beliefs get in the way of success. In other words, job seekers have not been taught how to successfully ride the emotional roller coaster.
CEMP, including Jay’s 10 principles for success and 16 specific emotional channeling techniques, teaches us how to apply success principles to empower clients to control their own destinies. To enjoy the process. To learn and grow from the journey. Imagine an industry transformation where job seekers actually enjoy, and are engaged in, the process of designing and attaining their better futures. And the best part – it empowers us to live a higher quality life; a richer life... on a consistent basis.
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Jay's Bi-Monthly Empowerment Newsletter
~ For Trainers, Coaches, and Educators ~
Proud to be...Panglossian
Am I Naïve?
Recently I was asked by a journalist if I was Panglossian. As a writer, I was embarrassed to admit I'd never heard of the word, so I replied, "It's complicated, let me get back to you."
"Fair enough," the reporter replied. I escaped professional discomfiture.
After the call, I Googled Panglossian and a few definitions indicated the word meant:foolishly optimistic.Am I foolishly optimistic?
Look, I understand the glass is half empty. I know we are addressing extremely difficult, surreal, and unprecedented (in our lifetime) events. I see the death. I see the pain. I worry about my family's and my friends' health. I very clearly see my own mortality. In fact, since I am home 24/7, I keep my safe open with my will easily accessible just in case.
I'm not naïve. But, am I Panglossian?
Think back to January
Overall, life was pretty good for most of us - as life goes, right? We had a good economy. Planes, trains and automobiles were operating at near-full capacity. Weddings, proms, graduations, vacations, and golf (for me in Boston) were just around the corner; as was the baseball season, basketball and hockey playoffs, and the NFL draft. Except for Brady leaving New England, everything was just rosy. And then, the Covid-19 hit the fan.
My wise yoga teacher
When the economy started to tank, when the deaths began to mount, and when life as we knew it came to an abrupt halt, I reflected back to what my first yoga teacher said to me. She said, "Everything you have experienced in life has brought you to this moment. The good, the bad and everything in-between. It was all necessary."
And if you stop and think about it, up until this past January, everything that happened in the past 2 and a half thousand years of recorded history, led us to where we all were in January. And this includes all the wars, plagues, and tragedies humankind experienced andovercameincluding:
- Antonine Plague: 165-180
- Great Plague of Marseille: 1720-1723
- Russian Plague: 1770-1772
- Philadelphia Yellow Fever Epidemic: 1793
- Spanish Flu: 1918-1920
- Polio - 1916-1954
- Asian Flu: 1957-1958
Based on historical fact
I have no illusion that there are challenging times ahead. But I know, based on historical fact and my own lifetime experiences, that in every adversity lies seeds of greater opportunities, that is, blessings in disguise, as I have written previously.
So I called the journalist back the following day and said,"If you define Panglossian as foolishly optimistic, the answer is no. But if you mean faithfully and expectantly optimistic... without a doubt, yes, I am Panglossian.
I acknowledge the problems we face - the half empty. But I invest 90% of my resources and attention on solutions and opportunities - the half full. And no, it's not always easy. But then again, anything in life that's worthwhile, is seldom easy to attain and maintain.
So now I am a proud card-carrying member of the Panglossian Club. It's not foolish to be optimistic. It's liberating, healthy, and the key to rapid success.
I invite you to join me - it's free (and freeing).
Excerpts below from the book,Kristallnacht, by Martin Gilbert (Winston Churchill's Biographer)
… in Hanover (Germany), a schoolgirl, Lore Pels, was walking to school with her brother, Erwin, when she passed a bedding store and was surprised to see policemen present. Windows were totally smashed, broken, Lore recalled, feathers were all over. My first thought was that a burglary was in progress!!The next block was our school.We were NOT able to go into the building; instead we were greeted by police, or Nazis. They told all the children upon arrival to go back home.
Lore said, Erwin and I had no idea what could have happened. Slowly word spread that our beautiful synagogue was burning… I remember being totally shocked, speechless, since we children spent so much time in the synagogue.
Returning home, Lore saw paper shreds - the burnt fragments of prayer books from the synagogue – flying in front of our windows.Her father Joseph Pels, switched on the radio, and turned the dial until he could hear a foreign radio station, something strictly forbidden for Jews. That was how her family found out that there was no burglary at the store and that the synagogue was burned, destroyed. A few days later, Lore, her parents and her brother were forced to vacate their apartment and to leave all their belongings behind. They were moved, with many other families, to a former Jewish school, with little more space than a bed for each person.
As for all those who witnessed Kristallnacht (Night of Broken Glass), that night and day were a grim prelude. A cousin in the United States offered affidavits to Lore's father, Joseph, for all four of the family to emigrate. Her father refused, stating over and over, as Lore recalled, that he had served the Germans during World War One.One of his brothers, Ivan Pels, had been killed in action in that war, fighting for Germany. He and his family would be fine.
During the first heavy allied bombing raid on Hanover, Joseph had a heart attack. Unable to be taken to hospital because Jews were not treated at hospitals, Lore’s father died. A few months later, his wife and two children were deported to (the concentration camp), Riga. His wife and (Lore) survived; his son Irwin died shortly before the end of the war in (the death camp) Dachau, to which many of the surviving Riga deportees were taken.
Lore Pels, the schoolgirl who endured being uprooted from her home, who was relocated to Riga, a concentration camp, who saw death everyday wondering when she would be next, and who miraculously survived and eventually came to America after the war… was my 2nd cousin, my mother’s first cousin.
And here’s the thing. If Lore’s father, Joseph, had accepted the affidavits for all four of the family to emigrate, it would have been my mother who would have not emigrated with those affidavits.
The moral of the story
When I contrast my current situation with what my cousin Lore and her family had to endure, and what my mother (at age seven), her sister, and my grandparents had to endure escaping from Germany...I have "no problems."
Contrast Analysis does NOT make problems or challenges go away. But this technique does empower us to appreciate what we have, in contrast to others who have, or have had it worse than us. And from thisgratefulperspective, we can better navigate the problems we are faced with... to better manage and successfully overcome our challenges.
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Jay's Bi-Monthly Empowerment Newsletter
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to the new abnormal
We are all destined, like it or not, to learn new ways of inhabiting this planet and living our lives. For instance, I finally got a surgical mask to wear outside - the new abnormal. I wear eye glasses and when wearing my mask, my glasses fog up! I tried a bandanna - and still, my glasses fogged.
I called my brother, a cardiologist, and asked him how to wear a mask without fogging my glasses. "Pinch the bridge of your nose and put the mask on tight," he texted. What does that even mean? Four hours later, I am still fogging up.
I wear gloves
in the supermarket
Last Friday I finished my shopping, carefully and as instructed by the CDC. The new abnormal. When I got home, I was sent a YouTube video where a nurse was teaching how to shop - being mindful of cross contamination. Seriously... I have to now re-learn how to shop?
The Nurse placed PAINT (signifying the coronavirus) on her gloves - which provided a visual of the coronavirus getting on the gloves while we touch stuff throughout the store (Which is why we wear gloves). Then she showed what happens when we get an itch, or a text message from a family member who asks us to pick something up while we are still in the store.
In my case, I had an itch on my ear that required a quick scratch. I also picked up the phone, texted back - and then called to be sure I knew exactly what my son wanted. Long story short - watch the video. By the time I returned to my car, took the gloves off, and started the engine - I had paint (coronavirus) on my face, my ears, my nose, my steering wheel, my door handles and now, shit, I'm infected! I now have to learn a whole new way of shopping. Comfortable? Not yet!
I am becoming a hoarder
I am a Feng Shui kind of guy. I like order and avoid clutter at all costs. In my home, I also adhere to the "Just-In-Time" (JIT) inventory control philosophy that businesses use, that is, I buy items and pay for them just before I run out. Why tie up cash inventorying stuff, right?
I am now using "generic" facial tissue in place of toilet paper (and running low on that, too!). Forget gold, silver, or the US dollar. The new world currency is toilet paper.
Truthfully, I'd be grateful for toilet paper I once avoided like thePlague... you know, the kind that feels like sandpaper. Now, as a result of the coronavirusplague, I am learning how to become a hoarder. Totally, not comfortable.
And what's up with medical procedures done while in a car?
when we don't want to be taught
- Hand washing may save our life... but oh, what it does to our skin. Anyone old enough to remember Madge?
- No more handshakes or fist bumps. No more double or single cheek kissing, or high-fives. Easier said than done. Maybe ankle taps?
- A 70-seat restaurant will become a 35-seat restaurant. Large parties will need their cell phones to communicate with someone at the other end of the table (or Dixie Cups with a string?).
- Bidets aren't just for women anymore.
- We'll carry gloves or Kleenex with us (if you can find them) to press anything: ATM's, credit card machines, elevator buttons, the start button in your car,.
- Forget communal food. Remember just a few weeks ago when we had no problem sharing a bowl of chips, M&M's, or nuts? Now it's, "ne touche pas."
- "Stay in your lane, bro" will be be expanded to "don't mess with my space, dude. Move back 6 feet."
- We must re-learn how to use hand sanitizers. Using them too much may have dire consequences to ourmicrobiome,the “good” bacteria that keep our skin, and our bodies, healthy. David Coil, Ph.D., a microbiologist at the University of California, Davis Genome Center insists. “The stuff really does kill a lot of microbes. Hand sanitizer could wipe out the good bugs along with the bad." Seriously? Maybe I shouldn't try to learn so much. Perhaps I need to embrace the cliche, "ignorance is bliss."
- Forget the sport of people watching, always one of my favorite activities. With masks and facial coverings - the only thing we'll see now are 2 beady eyes peering through a tiny space. Oh, and also, who is wearing the latest and coolest designer n95's.
- Will we see the return of Flying Tigers? With a 2 trillion percent increase in online ordering (or was that a bailout number?), delivery companies like UPS, USPS, and Fed EX will be overwhelmed. Maybe we'll see the eye of the tiger again?
- Don't touch your face. Ya right. This morning I made it a goal to go 4 hours without touching any part of my face. I made it 12 minutes. Can this be re-learned?
I am always ready to learn... although today, with this global pandemic, I am do not always enjoy being taught.
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We were living in a short-attention-span society before the Coronavirus began consuming so much of our attention and emotional energy. And now, as the world takes an indefinite “timeout,” our attention span is even more compromised. Today, it seems that most people’s attention is focused on fear, uncertainty, social distancing, hand washing, and stocking up on toilet paper. The world is on hold – temporarily. And so with a rambling mind and lots and lots of time to think… what better time to ponder the meaning of life than right now – for this edition of the Spotlight?
So I thought to myself, “This Coronavirus is hijacking jobs, our freedoms, our retirement accounts, and our lives.” And then I thought about the word hijack. Many of you reading this article are writers and/or marketers. Words are important to us. We pay attention to words. Like willpower. That’s a captivating word, don’t you think? Willpower, the power to take action to attain our will, our desires. A good word especially during times like this. We all need a full tank of willpower!
But what about the word – jack?
Remember, I am social distancing and have some extra time on my sanitized hands. Somehow, my train of thought navigated me back to the beginning of time, to the Garden. The Garden of Eden. Is it possible, I thought to myself, that the storytellers got Adam’s name wrong? I suspect that Adam’s name was actually Jack. It was Jack and Eve, not Adam and Eve. Why do I think this? What other name has so many words attached to it? None.
I suspect that back in the Garden when Jack (not Adam) began checking things out for the first time, he felt compelled to name things after himself. For instance, when he first discovered a sharp instrument to cut stuff, he called it a jackknife (ever hear of an Adam-knife?). When Eve took the apple and gave it to Jack (not Adam), he reportedly cut it up and mixed it with three-grains of cereal and called it Apple Jacks (is there a cereal named Apple Adams?). And when Jack and Eve took their first bite of the Apple Jacks, life eternal came to a screeching halt. You see, it was the serpent that jacked them around.
When Jack and Eve first entered the Garden of Eden, they hit the jackpot: an endless existence of bliss. Word has it, unsubstantiated, that Jack advocated for the “Garden of Jack,” but was overruled by a higher power. Anyway, after the applejack episode… it was jacksh_t for these two. A blissful, endless existence was replaced with the Coronavirus, and life became not-eternal. We might say that Jack and Eve got jack hammered by the serpent.
Have you ever stopped to think about how many words contain the name jack? Carjack, skyjack, blackjack, phone jack, lo-jack, jackass, jack-o-lantern, jackrabbit, jumping jacks, Crackerjacks (comes with a toy), jackscrew, lumberjack… hey, the list is extensive.
Pet Peeves and Annoying Phrases
Once again, with way too much time on my hands, I found myself on a phone call with Michael, a long-time friend. Given the social distancing guidelines, the phone has been my savior. But after some 45 minutes on the phone with Michael, I began to become annoyed at two phrases he used on a habitual basis. “Jay, I am staying indoors and not going anywhere except when I have to buy food. See what I’m saying?”
First, how can I possibly see what he’s saying? I can hear what he’s saying. But come on, we’re on the phone. Not Skype. Not FaceTime. And even if we were to do a face-to-face video call, I would be able to see him, but how on earth would I be able to see what he’s saying? And mind you, he’s using this expression consistently. “I can hear you fine, Michael. No need to see what you’re saying.”
Then Michael says, “I have a few things I want to do today. I want to cook up a few meals for the week ahead, do some vacuuming, and stuff like that.”
Stuff like that? For whatever reason, when I hear the expression “stuff like that,” it reminds me, physically, of grade school when someone scratched their fingernails on a chalkboard. I cringe. And you know, maybe I should bring this up with Michael. If he wants to eradicate this phrase from his vocabulary it would be easy. It would simply require mindfulness, a desire to lose the phrase, discipline, and stuff like that.
So, like I’m coaching a recent college grad, Melissa. Hopefully, not a communications major. Anyway, without exaggerating, almost every two sentences began with the word “like.” Like, this is beyond annoying! In fact, this may be the most-hated of all my communication-related pet peeves. Have you ever noticed that when people use the word “like” to start a thought, and where the subject matter is less than impressive, eyes start to roll? I mean, really roll. Wally says, “Like, nothing is built in America today. I just bought a new TV and it said, ‘Built in antenna.’ Like, I don’t even know where the hell that is. Know what I mean?”
Know what I mean?
Here’s another conversational inquiry I loathe. How many times have you had conversations with people who incessantly ask, “do you know what I mean”, throughout their conversation? Do people think we’re stupid? Listen, if we all speak the same language (in this case, English), we all know what you mean! Honestly, you don’t have to keep asking us if we know what you mean.
Honestly, is this a necessary word?
Honestly, if anyone uses the word honestly to launch a sentence, don’t you think to yourself, hey, everything this guy said in the past must mean jack? Why is there ever a need to use the words: honestly, truthfully, frankly, or sincerely to begin a sentence? (Honestly, I’ve never washed my hands so much in my life, as I have the last three weeks.).
The Law of Ignoring and the delusion that ignorance is bliss!)
In some corners of the earth, many people are taught, and actually believe, that ignorance is bliss: that what they don’t know won’t hurt them. I find this fascinating. If this were true, why do we send kids to school? Wisdom is priceless, isn’t it? If I’m ignorant and don’t know what 6 feet means or how long 6 feet is, for social distancing purposes, how do I know what a safe distance is?
If I don’t know specifically what I have accomplished in past jobs or if I don’t know what I did in past positions to earn my paycheck, how do I create a résumé, prepare for an interview, prepare to negotiate a promotion, or even feel good about myself? How do I communicate my value if I am ignorant of my value? I can’t. And as a result, I have no leverage to land a better job or promotion… and I can never optimally honor and appreciate myself and my value.
Ah, but… did you ever think of this - my ignorance is my employer’s bliss? If I don’t know my value, I will forever be underpaid, undervalued, and probably overworked. And my employer will make out like a bandit. Blissfully.
Then there’s the Law of Ignoring. The Law of Ignoring says that whatever we ignore, will get worse in time (or will come back and bite us in the butt). Ignore the ants in the kitchen, they’ll penetrate the sandwich. Ignore the weeds in the garden, they’ll take over the plants. Ignore the worst case scenario and we’ll be totally unprepared for the worst case scenario – and who knows what consequences that will result in. The Law of Ignoring says that it's important to be wise to reality and consider the consequences of ignoring reality.
Wisdom ignored is opportunities wasted
The Coronavirus and all its side effects are serious life-altering events. There’s nothing funny about what it’s doing to people’s lives around the globe. We all need to stay informed, be mindful, remain optimistic (without being naïve), be patient, and stuff like that.
Humor: How we react and respond is 100 times more important than what we face
Discipline. Personal responsibility. Faith. Collaboration. Humor. All of these traits are important. But it’s the last one, humor, that is so important in maintaining emotional control and a positive attitude in the wake of the Coronavirus – or any crisis. Humor reduces the dramas. It calms the mind so we can better address and resolve the issues we face. Ever since the Coronavirus ramped up in the US, I have made it a goal to laugh - or crack a joke with someone, once an hour during waking hours.
Recently, before the national call to socially distance from one another, I went to a bar with a friend. (We sat a good seven feet away). He ordered a beer. I ordered a “Jack” on the rocks, know what I mean? We decided to split the jack mackerel sandwich. It was a big sucker. And like, once we plowed into our sandwiches, I pointed to two old drunks across from us and whispered, “Art, that’s us in ten years.” Art took a quick look and said, “That’s a mirror, you idiot.”
Laugh, it is the best medicine. And that’s my joke for this hour.
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Far too many people major in minor things. Job seekers. Coaches. Managers. Elected officials. Just about everyone. The out-of-work individual who needs a job to ensure the financial well-being of his family has 50, 60, or even 70 hours
a week to plan and execute a rapid employment job campaign. So why is he only working three to four hours a day to land his next job? What is he doing with the rest of his time?
He’s majoring in minor things - rearranging furniture, watching reruns of CSI, and spending time (wasting time, actually) BS-ing on social media discussing everything except his job campaign.
It has been my experience that in life there are matters of great importance… and then there’s everything else – not very important. And it’s these important matters, whatever they may be, that are the ‘majors’ in life that require
our attention, discipline, effort and focus. But the seductive trap is letting those ‘minor things’, distract us and ultimately betray us. This is the root cause of failure and underachievement.
The key to success is avoiding minor activities and focusing on major priorities.
So how do we identify what is major and what is minor? My methodology is based on the 6-8/90 principle.
There are 6-8 things that make 90% of the difference in just about everything in life. You just need to determine what they are, and then invest 90% of your resources (time, money, and energy) on those 6-8 things.
So, there you have it. All you have to do is determine what the 6-8 things are that are most important to you in
achieving whatever goal or objective you have; whatever trouble you’re trying to navigate out of; or whatever successful pursuits you are undertaking. And once you have identified those 6-8 things, you then need to place them in a
hierarchy of importance. Why? Because not all of the 6-8 things have equal value. For instance, both your hearing and eyesight are important to you, but one is a little more important than the other. If I were to take away either
your eyesight or your hearing… what would you give up? You see, they are both very important to you, but one is a little more important than the other.
And here’s the thing… we want to live, consciously or subconsciously, aligned with that hierarchy. This is what determines whether we are happy or struggling.
And here’s another unfortunate fact. Most people are living their lives misaligned with their hierarchy of 6-8 things in almost every area of life. Author, Neale Donald Walsch, wrote: “Somewhere between the ages of 40 and 50, most
people have given up on their grandest dreams, set aside their highest hopes… and have settled for their lowest expectations or nothing at all.” So, to avoid doing what most other people are doing (according to Walsch), below is
a methodology so you and your clients can live life aligned with your highest ideals and expectations.
What is most important to me in my (blank) that makes me happy and enriches my entire life?
What’s most important to me in a job… RELATIONSHIP, VACATION, HEALTH, CHOOSING A COLLEGE… LIFE… YOU NAME IT - that makes me happy and enriches my whole life?
Important: Begin with a Big List
Brainstorm, or better yet, heart-storm. Perhaps when you ask the question, “What’s most important to me in my career that makes me happy and enriches my entire life,” you’ll come up with 15-25 things. Once the brainstorming/heartstorming
is completed and you have your list of 15-25 things, whittle them done to 6 to 8. And once you have the 6-8 things, place them in a hierarchy of importance. Then, invest 90% of your time, money, and energy on the 6-8 things. Finally
– the 6-8 things will be different for everyone. You need to identify for yourself what is most important to you… and then work on your list.
Using Jay Block as an Example
Personally, I work on my life and career values every year between Christmas and New Year’s. This way, I have a roadmap to success in 2020, to achieve the happiness
and fulfillment I aspire to. So, as an example, below are my hierarchy of values for my life and my career, and the process I used to compile this list.
I believe this is the best DECISION-MAKING model I have ever come across. Once I identify and prioritize my 6-8 life values, I can then ensure that my career values - and decisions about my career - are made to support my life. In other
words, I make career/workplace decisions so I can live the best life possible – inclusive of the adversities and setbacks I will inevitably face. And yes, this process works for anyone.
I begin by asking the question:
What’s most important to me in my LIFE that makes me happy and enriches my entire life?
I brainstorm (I write without thinking - allowing my heart to speak its mind): Wealth,
freedom, respect, family, friends, significance, health, peace, spirituality, adventure, legacy, high energy, my career, my condo, my Jeep, being creative, being resourceful, passion, comfort, power, love, contribution, growth, leadership,
Next – I identify my top 8:
(Notice I consolidated some as a single bullet)
1. Peace, gratitude, spirituality
2. Health – physical, mental, and emotional
5. My inner circle (family and friends)
6. Semi-retirement (3-day work week)
Control What You Can Control
One of the key elements to creating your list is to try and include only those things you can control. For instance, I know there is going to be political turmoil throughout the year – impeachment, elections, and unexpected political
chaos. Since peace is my #1 value… I will pay little attention to this because I cannot control any of this. Except for going to vote. So, I will remain aware of what is going on in the political arena, but I will not allow myself
to become part of the drama. If others want to argue about this, I will simply bow out of the conversation. I will not get caught up watching the news for hours on end. I will, instead, spend my time working on my list of 8.
Next: I ask the question:
And Help Your Clients Live
Extraordinary Lives as Well?
Again, I allow my feelings and emotions to have its say, letting the mind rest. When the will exposes itself, the mind’s job is to come up with the how… where there’s a will (heart) there’s a way (mind).
Freedom, creativity, program/curriculum development, promote empowerment programs, speaking, training, financial reward, 3-day a week schedule, work mainly with coaches and trainers, home-based, minimal travel, industry leadership,
collaboration, ongoing professional development, legacy, multiple streams of income, passive income, residual income, referral income, work with ideal clients
If, during 2020, I live a peaceful and spiritual year, am healthy, free, financially secure, enjoy family and friends, reduce my workday to three days a week, enjoy adventurous activities, and continue to build a lasting and positive
legacy, I will have lived a wholesome and extraordinary year – inclusive of all the bumps in the road along the way.
Next – I identify my top 8:
1. 3-day work week
2. Freedom (work from home office; work own hours)
3. Work with coaches and trainers (“ideal clients”)
4. Promote CEMP and CEIP
5. Promote to associations and organizations
6. Multiple streams of income – passive income included
The Take-home Message
When I invest my time, money, and energy on the eight career values above, and approach my work/career aligned with all eight values, this will provide the foundation, economically and personally, for having a fulfilling 2020. Below
are a few examples as to how this process can be used in other areas of our lives. So, if you want to live a joyous and rewarding life in 2020… and help your clients/ students do the same, all you have to do is identify the 6-8
things in key areas of your life… and then spend 90% of your resources on them. Warning: Do not major in minor things!
1. Rest and relaxation
2. No passport required
3. No more than a 3-hour flight
4. 7 days and 6 nights
5. Not to exceed $2,500
6. Good restaurants
Water sports including scuba diving
8. Plentiful activities – rain or shine
1. Must share top 8 life values
2. Between 45 and 55 years of age
3. Self-supporting financially
4. Comfortable in own skin
7. Values differences – not combative
8. Manages problems in a classy, dignified manner
1. Off-road capable; 4-wheel drive
2. Sway bar and tire locking capabilities
3. $35k - $40K max
4. Lease – no more than $375 a month
5. 2-door vehicle
6. Blue or silver
7. Automatic transmission
8. New or certified pre-owned
1. Weight between 175-180 pounds
2. Exercise at gym 4 times a week
3. Eat healthy – don’t overeat
4. Meditate daily 20-30 minutes
5. Hang out with positive people
6. Avoid negative people
7. Get a massage once a month
8. Reduce TV time and replace with reading time
If you don’t know what you want, you’ll
end up settling for what you get.
That’s usually underwhelming.
As you and your clients/student begin 2020, identify the 6-8 things that make 90% of the difference in landing a great new job - or whatever you or your clients are seeking to achieve – and then invest most of your resources on those
6-8 things. This way you give yourself and your clients/ students the best chances of ensuring that the first year of the new decade is… simply marvelous.
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Thursday, March 19, 2020
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The Coronavirus from a sailor's perspective
Don't rock the boat? Yeah, right. Go tell that to the Coronavirus, a pop quiz that is rocking the world's boat in ways we've never experienced, at least in our lifetime. Honestly, there are some pop quizzes I could do without... and this would be one of them!
A pop quiz is a test that arrives totally unexpectedly. Out of left field. For example, I am an excellent driver; my dad taught me well. I've never been in a car crash... 50 years of driving, mind you. Yet, when I turned 16 and a half and took my road test to get my driver's license, I was so nervous that I went up a one-way street and flunked. Suicide seemed like a reasonable option at the time.
I was an assistant scuba diving instructor in college. In order to qualify to take students out on open water dives, I had to take an open water test for instructors. No problem, right? Well, not until my instructor pointed out that I had put my wet suit on backwards. Pop quizzes, they rock my boat.
Unexpected tests are pop quizzes
The truly unexpected pop quizzes are the worst. Remember getting those suckers back in school? The teacher arrives in class, you believe it will be an easy class, and then WHAM - with a devious smile, the teacher hands out the pop quiz. What a great way to ruin a day. Pop quizzes, they rock all our boats!
- Flunking my driver's license test was totally unexpected. A pop quiz.
- Putting on my wet suit backwards was totally unexpected. A pop quiz.
- And the Coronavirus pandemic was totally unexpected. A pop quiz.
The seasoned sailor knows empowerment is not for wimps
Any idiot can make it through a good day. Actually, that's the name of one of my audio-books. But isn't this true? It doesn't require any special skill, mind-set, or discipline to make it through a cream-puff day. But when the sea gets rough and the wind blows as if the universe was taking its last deep breath... it's not the rough seas and unrelenting winds that matter most. What matters most is the set of the sail: how masterfully we navigate stormy seas - like a seasoned sailor.
When a pandemic storm, like the Coronavirus, impacts the globe and our very lives, we need to muster an impenetrable resolve that creates a force-to-be-reckoned-with "character." And it's the make-up of one's character" that is the building block for maintaining an empowered mindset. And the seasoned sailor knows an empowered mindset optimizes his skill set - the set of the sail. He knows he must keep his wits about him. He must stay calm, in control, and 100% determined to weather the storm. He is resilient.
- The Sailor is resourceful. Facing calamity, he is calm because when one is calm, one comes up with near-miraculous options, the backbone of solutions. The sailor knows that it's NOT a lack of resources that poses problems navigating out of the storm. The real culprit is a lack of resourcefulness. Resourcefulness, it is one of the greatest gifts human beings have. A seasoned sailor - he is resourceful under pressure.
- The sailor has faith. Faith in a higher power. Or, perhaps in her skills. Maybe in her crew members or the vessel itself. Hey, maybe it's in the great sea god, Poseidon. Perhaps, all of the above. When we dial up our faith (whatever that means, individually) and actually have faith, our faith will produce the results we seek - and we'll defeat the Coronavirus.
- The sailor is a funny guy. It's a medical fact. Humor IS the best medicine. The Coronavirus is no joke, and the havoc it's causing is certainly not funny. But we have to use our force-to-be-reckoned-with "character" to seek out pockets of laughter and humor. Watch the comedy channel 5 times more than you do the news. Watch funny and wacky movies, not Love Story or Fatal Attraction. Seek out the humor and funny moments even in the midst of chaos and uncertainty... Laugh!
- The sailor controls what she can control. She reasserts a sense of control over fear and uncertainty, without overreacting and risking panic. She stays informed, mindful, observant, and fully engaged without overdoing it. In the case of the Coronavirus, we need to focus our attention on what we have control over. We have control over social distancing, monitoring our temperature if we get sick, and carrying and using hand sanitizers. We have control over our hygiene, who we avoid, and our attitudes. When we control what we can control - tough times get easier.
- The sailor focuses on calm seas when he's in stormy seas. It's been said hundreds of ways. "Focus on what you want, not what you have." "Begin with the end in mind." "Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, you can achieve." The Law of Attraction states that "whatever we focus on, we attract." When we invest our time visualizing and planning for a better future, a better future will appear sooner rather than later. When we're ill, it's better to have healing thoughts than to rehash the illness over and over again in the theater of our minds. So focus on healing thoughts.
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